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Renowned for being a motivational writer, a proficient speaker and
someone who influences people to realize their true potential and get the best
in their life, Mr. Shiv Khera was the highlight of the evening at the 33rd Sharjah
International Book Fair on 11th November 2014.
Khera is the author of 16 books. His first book was “You Can Win,”
published in 1998 with a trademark quote- “Winners don’t do different things,
they do things differently.” This book was a glorious success and has been
translated into various languages.
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From writing on napkins and pieces of paper, to publishing his
very first book, Shiv Khera started off with his hustle-bustle experience and
journey into the world of books and enlightened the audience with his struggle
to becoming an author. He carried away the
audience into his actual life instances and motivated all to a great extent.
“Don’t buy this book! Was written right at the top of
my book-reviews sheet, but I never saw that sheet as my wife had hidden it
beneath some files. Two years later, when my book had become the bestselling I
found the book-reviews sheet hidden beneath some files,"
"This, taught me one lesson – No matter what you do in life,
you do good, you will be criticized. You do bad, you will still be criticized.
Just make sure you do good, and don’t even worry about the critics in this
world. There are some people in this world, no matter which side you are, they
are permanently on the other side and are constantly criticizing. We need to
distinguish between constructive criticism and negative criticism,” said Khera.
He believes that, life is full of choices and full of compromises
and that many times in life people keep searching for things they cannot have
and eventually tend to bring stress into their lives. Instead, he urged the
audience to seek positive choices in life.
“Something that I love and I’ve been practicing a lot is The
Serenity Prayer -'God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot
change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference',” he
said.
He further moved on to the theme of the evening, “Winners don’t do
different things, they do things differently,” and said that many times people
ask what do winners do differently?
“Here’s what they do differently: Losers don’t like to do things.
Winners don’t like to do it either but, they do it anyway. Losers don’t like to
wake up in the morning. Winners don’t like to wake up in the morning either
but, they still do. Losers don’t like to work hard. Winners don’t like to work
hard either but, they still do! That’s the difference,” he said.
Furthermore, Khera emphasized on the fact that good habits take
time to come, but bad habits come easily. He also stressed on the importance of
practice that can lead to perfection for “practice only makes permanent
whatever we do."
The audience was lured by his motivational speech, as he moved
from one topic of interest to the other. He further managed to gauge and motivate
the audience by giving them various instances from his own life. Khera is one
of those motivational speakers who believe that the only people who will
succeed in life are people who master 3 skills: People Skills, Persuasion
Skills and Prioritizing Skills.
“People are not assets. Only good people are assets, rest all are
liabilities,” he quoted.
He also compared the generation gap and differences and stated
that today’s generation is so comfortable with using the computer that they can
spend hours and hours in front of it. And, they become uncomfortable with
talking to people in person.
He further mentioned that 200-300 years back in the West, most
marriages were arranged marriages which means marriage came first, love came
afterwards. But today, it’s the reverse. Love marriages have come into
existence where love comes first and marriage afterwards. And now what they do
in the West is that, they have come up with a so called live-in relationship
format, something without any commitments.
“And when you ask them, why don’t they make a commitment? They say
that they are checking compatibility. For five years, they check compatibility
and then get married and two and half hours later they get divorced. What did
they check for five years then? Have you ever seen a compatible couple in this
world?” Khera asked.
“What keeps your relationship moving is not compatibility. But, it
is our ability to live with the incompatibilities in life,” he quoted with his
words of wisdom.
He winded up the session by reminding the audience to be cautious
about the judgments we make as individuals for, “We judge ourselves by our own
intentions but, the world judges us by our actions.”
Khera proceeded with the signing of his book, for his ardent fans waiting in queue just to meet him.
By Maryam Khan
The writer is a final year undergraduate student in the School of Media & Communication specializing in Journalism
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